DO ANXIETY AND PERFECTIONISM TAKE OVER YOUR LIFE?
"Perfectionism is a 20-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that is really preventing us from being seen and taking flight."
–Brené Brown, researcher and author of Daring Greatly
Worrying about being "good enough" keeps you from living fully.
I'm glad you're here. You can slow down and take a deep breath.
I specialize in a particular brand of anxiety—the kind that has you worrying about your job or school performance, the status of your friendships or romantic relationships... perhaps even your place in the world. You're often paralyzed by the pressure to succeed or show up in a certain way. You worry about saying the wrong thing in public or screwing up a project at work. It tends to bother you when tasks aren't completed or when things don't turn out the way you imagined it. You're often dreading certain interactions with colleagues, friends, or family members. The threat of embarrassment, failure, or "losing face" loom large in your mind.
Anxiety and perfectionism can suck the joy out of your life. You are mentally and physically drained but struggle to slow down. You wish you could actually enjoy moments with family or friends instead of being preoccupied and distracted. You want deeper connections and more rewarding relationships but aren't sure how.
It's, frankly, exhausting.
What's going on, and how can therapy help?
Anxiety is your nervous system's natural response to perceived danger and difficulty—stuck on overdrive. It can show up in your mind and body in a variety of ways, including:
Cognitive: excessive worry, racing thoughts, difficulty focusing, impending sense of doom or apprehension
Behavioral: irritability, restlessness, over-preparation, alertness or sensitivity to "what could happen"
Physical: rapid or shallow breathing, sweating, nausea, increased heart rate, fatigue, insomnia
Anxiety is a common experience. And, there is relief. Seeing an anxiety therapist can provide you with a private, nonjudgmental space to uncover the roots of your anxiety and find ways to soothe your nervous system. Working with me might involve unpacking stories-turned-beliefs about not being "good enough," creating a different relationship with that inner critic, or learning techniques to alleviate worry or panic in the moment.
You don't have to suffer in silence.